Ask yourself these questions;
Did my "feelings" get hurt or have "I" been hurt?
Has our "relationship" been violated?
There is a BIG DIFFERENCE between getting your "feelings" hurt and having your "relationship" with someone violated!!! A heartfelt "I'm sorry" will fix our feelings most of the time, if we are mature enough to process the difference between daily feelings and the depth of long term relationship. If a long term relationship gets violated, trust breaks down and that type of hurt is something far deeper than just "feelings"!!!
Just by definition, the word "violation" is going to be much deeper within our inner man that just '"feelings"!! It is a must to categorize our relationships and our hurts!! Do we know one another because we work together, go to church together or are we bound by vows of marriage or family?
Our relationships with others whether they be a spouse, parent, sibling, children, coworker, church or recreation are like assets, either solid or liquid. A liquid changes depending on the container but a solid holds its shape!! What is the context of the relationship? Is the relationship seasonal or life time? Did you get your feelings hurt or have YOU been hurt deeply? Please consider these thoughts before making permeant decisions concerning relationships. JESUS IS MY HEALER!!!!!
"but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken."
Proverbs 15:13b KJV
"....but a broken spirit drieth the bones."
Proverbs 17:22b KJV
".....but a wounded spirit who can bear?"
Proverbs 18:14b KJV
I Believe,
Scott L. Boatner
Insight from God's Word
